Conflict in your relationship

But while this is the unfortunate lot of many couples today, the good news is that it doesn’t have to be that way.

It doesn’t have to signify the end of a beautiful friendship.

You can change the direction your relationship is taking. Because the path it follows is largely guided by the way you handle conflict.

Interestingly, how you manage conflict is an important sign of the health and resilience of your relationship. At the same time it reveals a lot about your personalities too.

The problem is that most of us don’t really know how we react to conflict.  We become so emotionally involved that we are unable to see ourselves objectively. Clearly we never see ourselves in action!

That’s why it’s helpful to know a little more about ourselves and our reactions when conflict strikes.  Because strike it will!

Here are a few questions and suggestions about arguing

• Do you sulk silently or do you rant and rave? If you tend to remain silent and introverted while your partner rants and raves you are clearly on separate pages emotionally.

• At some point in the argument do you say “you always …?” Remember not to generalize but rather keep the argument specific.  When you start to bring in general complaints from last year, the argument broadens and gets out of hand.

• Do you forgive your partner readily and easily? And are you willing to make up quickly? Or do you bear grudges and carry them around with you in a mental “grudge basket?” A grudge basket is a convenient receptacle for holding grudges till you need to take them out to use during a disagreement!

The ideal way to deal with an issue is to discuss it when you are both calm and relaxed.

But as you know, we are seldom calm and relaxed when it comes to emotional matters. Most of us need a little help now and then.

In cases like this I find that a careful look at a couple’s handwriting can be effective because it can often help to isolate the cause of the problem.

I’m not suggesting that you shouldn’t consult a professional where necessary.  What I am saying is that an understanding of both your personalities will give you a better understanding of your relationship.

If a scrutiny of your handwriting can do anything at all, it certainly does one thing well. It helps you to understand where you are coming from.

Not only that, it helps you to identify areas of conflict based on the evidence obtained from both handwritings.  It’s even possible to anticipate where friction is likely to occur in the future.

And no, this does not mean consulting a crystal ball.  This information comes purely from the handwriting itself which holds the clues to many personality quirks and idiosyncrasies as well as to certain emotional problems.

So conflict in your relationship needn’t mean the end of everything. If you can find out what makes you both tick, it can actually add a new dimension of understanding to your relationship.

And don’t forget; a conflict resolved is a relationship strengthened.

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And if we’re not talking to one another there isn’t much chance that we would be listening to one another either!

There has to be a reason for a lack of communication.

One of the great things about graphology is that it can sometimes help us to find the reasons why we are not communicating effectively. And once we find the reasons we can move on to address the problems.

A study of two handwritings in a relationship can give us a bird’s eye view of what is going on in that relationships. It can certainly give us a good hint as to the reason for the problem.

And that I think, is one of the most important things that Graphology can do for us because the implications are significant.  Improved relationships mean a better understanding among people in general and in society as a whole.

Of course I don’t mean that handwriting analysis can achieve all that on its own but because it helps us to understand people so well it can point us in the right direction.

In my opinion, promoting better understanding between any two people is a truly noble cause.  And when you understand graphology that is one of the most helpful things that you can do with it.

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Fast forward a few millennia and methods of “bringing home the bacon” have become somewhat more sophisticated.  Take a look at Davos in Switzerland today.  What are they discussing? Bringing home the bacon, of course!

People haven’t really changed that much. Women still look for strength, intelligence and confidence in their mates. Subconsciously they’re on the lookout for good providers.

That is why the process of choosing a mate has always been so involved. Suitors may not always be required to go out hunting but in one way or another they have always had to prove themselves.

History is full of tales about suitors having to perform difficult tasks before even being permitted to court their future brides. Many were put through unenviable tasks to prove their worth. Jacob had to labour for seven long years before he was allowed to marry Rachel.

The never-ending process of testing and choosing continues unabated.

Dating is an elaborate ritual of testing, preparatory to choosing a mate. Dating couples set crafty little tasks for their mates to get through while they are carefully scrutinized and put to the test.

Meanwhile, the grounds are being laid for “the eventual choosing”.  Will they fit into the family culture, will they be able to provide?  Will they make good parents?

But it gets even more difficult as more and more questions need to be answered.

These things are vitally important to check out if you hope to have a happy, long-term relationship.

There are many ways to learn about your partner, some more or less intrusive than others. But if you’re looking for a more intuitive and tactful way to find out if your partner has the strengths you are hoping for you could always check out your mate’s handwriting.

In fact, here’s a free report that may be helpful to you. “The Signs of Success” shows you how to find the strengths in your own or in your partner’s handwriting.

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Newspapers and magazines have regular columns about relationships.

A huge proportion of TV programs and movies are about – relationships of course!

Why?

Because relationships are the lifeblood of our lives.

So if that’s the case here’s a question  – how well do you know and understand that special relationship in your life?

In fact have you given any thought to it recently?

You should.  Because your relationship is the key to your happiness.

That is why it’s so important to try to sort out your relationship problems

But what is the reason for your relationship problems in the first place? What causes them?

The short answer is:

Personality Differences

Your relationship is very much affected by your personality and specifically by the differences in both your personalities.

It follows that the better you can understand both your personalities the more your relationship will benefit.

Handwriting and Personality

It’s no secret that I use handwriting to delve into the mysteries of human personality! I have been a fan of handwriting analysis for a long time for one main reason -  I find that it works!

One of the most interesting things that I have discovered about being able to analyse handwriting is that it teaches you so much about personality and human nature; and therefore a lot about relationships too.

Not only can you gather the most valuable information about your own relationship but you can also delve into just about any other kind of relationship you can think of – romantic, family, political, historical and so on.

When you become familiar with the workings of handwriting you can zoom into just about any partnership.

Think about what this means. If you have the ability to analyze handwriting, you can delve into the motives, fears and desires of all kinds of people from all walks of life. Politicians, celebrities, writers!

You can delve into the past and reconstruct personalities from a page of handwriting in such a way that the people seem to walk off the page.

But even more importantly, it makes you so much more aware of the many problems that people face every day in their relationships.  It certainly gives you a lot to think about.

A Love Hate Relationship

In a brief article of this nature I can’t give you much proof.  But if you would like to take a look at my exposé of the conflict of personalities between Freud and Jung you will see exactly why they had such a complicated love-hate relationship.

All this from handwriting? Well, just take a look and let me know what you think.

And by the way, if I can discover so much about the personalities of those two famous personalities, don’t you think it’s possible to uncover a lot about less complicated relationships too?

See you next time! But give it some thought in the meantime.

Sandra

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“The 7 magic keys to your real personality” is a free online course to help you learn more about your personality through your handwriting. It is the result of numerous requests for a course that explains how you can learn more about yourself and others by understanding certain clues in your handwriting – and particularly how this can help you in your relationships.

So I’ve written it at last and here it is –

A free online course about  you and your handwriting.

I hope that it will help you to appreciate some of the fascinating facts about your own personality as well as give you a new perspective on the personalities of your friends, family and – others.

The remarkable thing is that these magic keys are to be found in your handwriting which in the most amazing way, mirrors your personality. And as you know, the blending of personalities is what relationships are all about.

I hope that this free online course will show you how graphology can give you insight into those rather difficult personalities that may seem puzzling right now.

The more we can understand ourselves and one another, the more tolerance we will show in our relationships.

The end goal of graphology is to help you to understand yourself and others. I think that’s a very worthy goal – don’t you?

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2.     How to discover the Signs of Success in your Handwriting
3.     How to acquire the Magic of Real Insight
4.     The Key to Self-discovery
5.     How to see the whole Personality Picture.
6.     The meaning of Pretty Handwriting
7.    How to Find the Genius within you

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Different standards of honesty

You have probably noticed that people have different standards of honesty. What is honest to one person is dishonest to another.

While you may return incorrect change to the supermarket, someone else will hold onto it and consider it to be a minor windfall.

While a co-worker may tell you that you look awful after your recent bout of flu, a friend may be more tactful and say that you are looking much better.

These are different degrees of dishonesty that cannot be identified from handwriting.

A habitual fraudster on the other hand, is easier to identify from his handwriting. His dubious approach will be imprinted on his character and this will be reflected in his handwriting.

Dishonesty has to be habitual before it can be identified in handwriting.  When it becomes a habit it makes a mark or impression on the personality.  This is what we are able to detect in handwriting.

Coming soon: “How to detect dishonesty in handwriting!”

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