A holiday season can be one of the loneliest times of the year.
While everyone around you seems to be buying presents, preparing meals and going to dinners and parties, you feel like a lonely wallflower sitting on the sidelines watching all the dancers whirl by.
When you are feeling alone it rubs salt into the wound to see so much activity and so much shopping and scurrying around.
Your only wish is that it will all go away as quickly as possible.
What are you to feel when the whole world around you seems to be going berserk? Your loneliness is accentuated by all this contrast with your own situation.
So you pretend to be bright and happy. But in reality you are feeling like the only person on the planet who feels miserable and so desperately alone.
But take heart. There are many thousands of people right now who feel exactly as you do. The only difference is that you haven’t met them and you don’t know who they are. If somehow you could all get together you could have one huge bash that would put all the other party-goers to shame!
But jokes aside, holiday seasons are notorious for making people feel miserable. There are many people out there right now who can’t wait for the holidays to be over so that they can get back to work quickly and regain some semblance of normality.
The important thing to realize is that you are not alone. Many, many people are going through this very same feeling of depression this minute.
The secret lies in learning how to cope with feeling lonely. And this means that you have to make a plan of action.
It’s quite easy. Simply accept that this is the time to pamper yourself. Buy that special something you have always wanted. Treat yourself to something you know you will enjoy.
Buy that new book you have always wanted or make plans to learn that new hobby you’ve always fancied; or explore an interest that you have always wanted to follow such as learn handwriting analysis. Immerse yourself in it and you will be amazed to see how quickly the time passes and how soon you will start to feel better about yourself.
Time to yourself can be a blessing in this overcrowded world. Use the opportunity to get in touch with your creativity. Express your feelings by painting, writing or learning a musical instrument.
And there’s the internet too with chat groups where you can join groups of people with similar interests. Loneliness is a common problem and there are many people out there hoping to connect with others who have similar interests.
Now that you have some time on your hands you can get involved with a cause that you believe in. There is a double advantage here. You’ll feel good knowing you are doing something worthwhile and furthermore, you may meet some like-minded people who could add a lot of meaning to your life.
For example if you are concerned about the ecology you could become part of a group and go on outdoor excursions. There are all kinds of possibilities for new experiences.
The bottom line is – don’t simply hide under your bed till the holidays are over. With a little change of focus you can turn this time into a valuable and yes, an enjoyable experience. Just set your mind to it.
Tags: holiday season, how to cope with loneliness, loneliness, lonely
More books have been written about relationships than any other subject.
Newspapers and magazines have regular columns about relationships.
A huge proportion of TV programs and movies are about – relationships of course!
Why?
Because relationships are the lifeblood of our lives.
So if that’s the case here’s a question – how well do you know and understand that special relationship in your life?
In fact have you given any thought to it recently?
You should. Because your relationship is the key to your happiness.
That is why it’s so important to try to sort out your relationship problems
But what is the reason for your relationship problems in the first place? What causes them?
The short answer is:
Personality Differences
Your relationship is very much affected by your personality and specifically by the differences in both your personalities.
It follows that the better you can understand both your personalities the more your relationship will benefit.
Handwriting and Personality
It’s no secret that I use handwriting to delve into the mysteries of human personality! I have been a fan of handwriting analysis for a long time for one main reason - I find that it works!
One of the most interesting things that I have discovered about being able to analyse handwriting is that it teaches you so much about personality and human nature; and therefore a lot about relationships too.
Not only can you gather the most valuable information about your own relationship but you can also delve into just about any other kind of relationship you can think of – romantic, family, political, historical and so on.
When you become familiar with the workings of handwriting you can zoom into just about any partnership.
Think about what this means. If you have the ability to analyze handwriting, you can delve into the motives, fears and desires of all kinds of people from all walks of life. Politicians, celebrities, writers!
You can delve into the past and reconstruct personalities from a page of handwriting in such a way that the people seem to walk off the page.
But even more importantly, it makes you so much more aware of the many problems that people face every day in their relationships. It certainly gives you a lot to think about.
A Love Hate Relationship
In a brief article of this nature I can’t give you much proof. But if you would like to take a look at my exposé of the conflict of personalities between Freud and Jung you will see exactly why they had such a complicated love-hate relationship.
All this from handwriting? Well, just take a look and let me know what you think.
And by the way, if I can discover so much about the personalities of those two famous personalities, don’t you think it’s possible to uncover a lot about less complicated relationships too?
See you next time! But give it some thought in the meantime.
Sandra
P.S. If you are interested in a seeing a light-hearted approach to graphology with lots of handwriting fun for beginners go to Graphology-World.
Tags: complicated relationships, Freud and Jung, handwriting and personality, love-hate relationship, understand your relationship
If you are afraid to pay a compliment this is for you.
The sad thing about being afraid to give compliments is that when the moment has passed it doesn’t come again.
The inability to express appreciation sets up an emotional barrier. And the more we block our feelings the more it becomes an intractable habit.
The saying goes that we never regret the things we said as much as the things we left unsaid.
That is why if you think you may be suffering from an emotional block try this simple experiment.
At the very first opportunity, comment about something pleasant you have noticed about your partner. It doesn’t have to be an over the top expression of undying love. Just mention something that you have noticed and like. It can be the simplest thing.
Then take note of the expression on your partner’s face. If you see that it has gone down well you can try it again on another occasion.
About being Critical
It’s so easy to be critical. But being critical creates a negative reaction and can lead to resentment particularly if it is uncalled for. Criticism creates a negative mood.
When you are critical you are looking for the shortcomings in someone. But when you are being complimentary it means that you have looked for and found the good.
The difference can always be seen in your partner’s expression. A compliment can work wonders and the effect on your partner’s mood and on your own will be magical.
Tags: afraid to give compliments, being critical, criticisim, emotional block
A well-chosen compliment can work wonders in any relationship.
It’s a simple fact! Compliments can work like magic.
But have you noticed how difficult some people find it to give a compliment? It’s as if they’re scared it will be regarded as flattery.
They don’t understand the magic that a compliment can wield.
While couples are dating, compliments come thick and fast.
“How beautiful you are!” “How lovely your hair looks tonight!” or ”You look a million dollars in that suit!” and so on.
But then as they become more familiar with one another they start taking one another for granted and soon think that compliments are unnecessary.
They forget that the real secret to keeping a relationship alive is by showing a genuine interest in one another. Giving a genuine compliment now and then is one of the best ways to show your interest.
A genuine compliment is not simple flattery. A well-timed and sincere compliment is a sign of appreciation. And it will always be well received.
Many people feel that simply thinking well of someone is good enough and that it is unnecessary to voice how they feel. They seem to think that their partner will know automatically what they are thinking.
But the truth is that we all need to feel appreciated and a sincere compliment is one of the best ways to give recognition and show appreciation. You should never be afraid to give a compliment. It will make your loved one feel so special. And that is exactly where a compliment starts to work its magic.
Tags: a genuine compliment, compliments in a relationship, compliments work wonders, recognition and appreciation, sincere compliment
