How well do you understand your relationship?
More books have been written about relationships than any other subject.
Newspapers and magazines have regular columns about relationships.
A huge proportion of TV programs and movies are about – relationships of course!
Why?
Because relationships are the lifeblood of our lives.
So if that’s the case here’s a question – how well do you know and understand that special relationship in your life?
In fact have you given any thought to it recently?
You should. Because your relationship is the key to your happiness.
That is why it’s so important to try to sort out your relationship problems
But what is the reason for your relationship problems in the first place? What causes them?
The short answer is:
Personality Differences
Your relationship is very much affected by your personality and specifically by the differences in both your personalities.
It follows that the better you can understand both your personalities the more your relationship will benefit.
Handwriting and Personality
It’s no secret that I use handwriting to delve into the mysteries of human personality! I have been a fan of handwriting analysis for a long time for one main reason - I find that it works!
One of the most interesting things that I have discovered about being able to analyse handwriting is that it teaches you so much about personality and human nature; and therefore a lot about relationships too.
Not only can you gather the most valuable information about your own relationship but you can also delve into just about any other kind of relationship you can think of – romantic, family, political, historical and so on.
When you become familiar with the workings of handwriting you can zoom into just about any partnership.
Think about what this means. If you have the ability to analyze handwriting, you can delve into the motives, fears and desires of all kinds of people from all walks of life. Politicians, celebrities, writers!
You can delve into the past and reconstruct personalities from a page of handwriting in such a way that the people seem to walk off the page.
But even more importantly, it makes you so much more aware of the many problems that people face every day in their relationships. It certainly gives you a lot to think about.
A Love Hate Relationship
In a brief article of this nature I can’t give you much proof. But if you would like to take a look at my exposé of the conflict of personalities between Freud and Jung you will see exactly why they had such a complicated love-hate relationship.
All this from handwriting? Well, just take a look and let me know what you think.
And by the way, if I can discover so much about the personalities of those two famous personalities, don’t you think it’s possible to uncover a lot about less complicated relationships too?
See you next time! But give it some thought in the meantime.
Sandra
P.S. If you are interested in a seeing a light-hearted approach to graphology with lots of handwriting fun for beginners go to Graphology-World.
Are you Afraid to pay a Compliment?
If you are afraid to pay a compliment this is for you.
The sad thing about being afraid to give compliments is that when the moment has passed it doesn’t come again.
The inability to express appreciation sets up an emotional barrier. And the more we block our feelings the more it becomes an intractable habit.
The saying goes that we never regret the things we said as much as the things we left unsaid.
That is why if you think you may be suffering from an emotional block try this simple experiment.
At the very first opportunity, comment about something pleasant you have noticed about your partner. It doesn’t have to be an over the top expression of undying love. Just mention something that you have noticed and like. It can be the simplest thing.
Then take note of the expression on your partner’s face. If you see that it has gone down well you can try it again on another occasion.
About being Critical
It’s so easy to be critical. But being critical creates a negative reaction and can lead to resentment particularly if it is uncalled for. Criticism creates a negative mood.
When you are critical you are looking for the shortcomings in someone. But when you are being complimentary it means that you have looked for and found the good.
The difference can always be seen in your partner’s expression. A compliment can work wonders and the effect on your partner’s mood and on your own will be magical.
A Compliment can lift any Relationship
A well-chosen compliment can work wonders in your relationship.
It’s a simple fact! Compliments can work like magic.
But have you noticed how difficult some people find it to give a compliment? It’s as if they’re scared it will be regarded as flattery.
They don’t understand the magic that a compliment can wield.
While couples are dating, compliments come thick and fast.
“How beautiful you are!” “How lovely your hair looks tonight!” or ”You look a million dollars in that suit!” and so on.
But then as they become more familiar with one another they start taking one another for granted and soon think that compliments are unnecessary.
They forget that the real secret to keeping a relationship alive is by showing a genuine interest in one another. Giving a genuine compliment now and then is one of the best ways to show your interest.
A genuine compliment is not simple flattery.
A well-timed and sincere compliment is a sign of appreciation. And it will always be well received.
Many people feel that simply thinking well of someone is good enough and that it is unnecessary to voice how they feel. They seem to think that their partner will know automatically what they are thinking.
But the truth is that we all need to feel appreciated and a sincere compliment is one of the best ways to give recognition and show appreciation. You should never be afraid to give a compliment. It will make your loved one feel so special. And that is exactly where a compliment starts to work its magic.
7 Magic Keys to your Real Personality
Unlock the door to your Real Personality
“The 7 magic keys to your real personality” is a free online course to help you learn more about your personality through your handwriting. It is the result of numerous requests for a course that explains how you can learn more about yourself and others by understanding certain clues in your handwriting – and particularly how this can help you in your relationships.
So I’ve written it at last and here it is –
A free online course about you and your handwriting.
I hope that it will help you to appreciate some of the fascinating facts about your own personality as well as give you a new perspective on the personalities of your friends, family and – others.
The remarkable thing is that these magic keys are to be found in your handwriting which in the most amazing way, mirrors your personality. And as you know, the blending of personalities is what relationships are all about.
I hope that this free online course will show you how graphology can give you insight into those rather difficult personalities that may seem puzzling right now.
The more we can understand ourselves and one another, the more tolerance we will show in our relationships.
The end goal of graphology is to help you to understand yourself and others. I think that’s a very worthy goal – don’t you?
The 7 secrets in your handwriting that will be revealed to you are:
1. How to Discover your own Uniqueness
2. How to discover the Signs of Success in your Handwriting
3. How to acquire the Magic of Real Insight
4. The Key to Self-discovery
5. How to see the whole Personality Picture.
6. The meaning of Pretty Handwriting
7. How to Find the Genius within you
To receive this information fill out your name and email in the form below and you will immediately receive the first of The 7 Magic Keys.
As I’ve said – it’s completely free. So go for it!
Can you Detect Dishonesty in Handwriting?
Detecting dishonesty in handwriting isn’t as easy as you may think. The reason is that there isn’t a straight answer simply because there are so many different types of dishonesty ranging from white lies to outright fraud.
Different standards of honesty
You have probably noticed that people have different standards of honesty. What is honest to one person is dishonest to another.
While you may return incorrect change to the supermarket, someone else will hold onto it and consider it to be a minor windfall.
While a co-worker may tell you that you look awful after your recent bout of flu, a friend may be more tactful and say that you are looking much better.
These are different degrees of dishonesty that cannot be identified from handwriting.
A habitual fraudster on the other hand, is easier to identify from his handwriting. His dubious approach will be imprinted on his character and this will be reflected in his handwriting.
Dishonesty has to be habitual before it can be identified in handwriting. When it becomes a habit it makes a mark or impression on the personality. This is what we are able to detect in handwriting.
Coming soon: “How to detect dishonesty in handwriting!”
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Honesty in your Relationship. How important is it?
How important is honesty in your relationship?
Does honesty have an important place in your relationship? And does it really matter?
Many people talk about the importance of honesty in their relationships. But how many couples really practice it? How many of us are truly honest with one another?
To some people, honesty is just a word to which they merely pay lip service. And so it is one of the first things to give way in the light of a crisis.
But honesty in a relationship is a very real value that we should do everything in our power to keep alive. The health and longevity of the relationship depends upon it.
What is love without trust?
The real value and raison d’etre of being honest in a relationship is that it inspires trust. Trust and sincerity. If we don’t have trust and sincerity in our relationships all mayhem breaks loose.
Why?
Because if we can’t trust those who are closest to us we cannot rely on them in times of stress or in a crisis. It leaves us filled with doubt rather than imbued with confidence. And it gradually eats away at the relationship until it is destroyed.
This is clearly not the type of foundation on which we can build a lasting relationship.
So yes, honesty in a relationship is vitally important because it gives us the assurance that we can trust and rely on the person we love. It is what love is based on.
Ask any couple with a long and successful relationship what they based their success on and you’ll find that nine times out of ten the answer will include some aspect of trust and honesty.
How to bring Fun and Laughter into your Relationship
Do you and your partner laugh a lot? Do you know how to have fun? If you have a fun-filled relationship consider yourselves very fortunate. It is one of the greatest blessings a couple can have.
Photo: tandemracer, Flickr
Many couples just don’t realize how important it is to bring fun and laughter into a relationship.
All the joy of a happy relationship is so easily lost amidst the seriousness of chores, responsibilities and the demands of making a living.
People forget to have fun in the routine of everyday life.
That light-hearted feeling of happiness should not be reserved purely for holidays and special occasions. Laughter and fun can lift any moment and make it special.
If you make a conscious effort to put fun and laughter into your relationship, then not only will you enjoy many more special moments – but you will also be revitalizing and strengthening your relationship.
There are so many ways to add an element of fun and light heartedness to your lives. It only needs a few minutes of thought and a little imagination and you will soon begin to associate much more fun with being together.
As an experiment, sit down right now and do some brain storming. Think of several things that you can do to give you both some fun-filled moments.
Go for a run together, go bicycle riding, cook a meal together or start dancing lessons. It’s so easy to do and it involves so little effort that we forget to take advantage of these simple things.
It may seem like an effort at first and you may have to set aside special times for this – but give it a try – the pay off could be huge.
Jealousy – A deep-seated Fear
It may feel strange to think of jealousy as a deep-seated fear. But that’s exactly what it is.
It’s a fear that infiltrates and spreads through a relationship leaving distrust in its wake.
Photo: Greg Hayter
One of the worst things about jealousy is that it causes us to lose trust in our partners.
Eventually, it infiltrates every aspect of our lives leaving a feeling of insecurity and anxiety.
Hold on right there!” you’ll jump in.
How can you call it fear?
“How can you call it fear when a woman’s husband becomes abusive during a fit of jealousy?
And how can you call it fear when a little boy tries to throw his new baby sister out of her pram?”
The answer is that jealousy is indeed a very real fear.
It’s the fear of losing love.
The jealous husband is filled with fear when he obsesses that his wife will leave him for someone else. His unacceptable behaviour comes from desperation.
The little boy fears that his mother will divert her love from him to his little sister. He sees his worries as real and his actions are self-protective.
Jealousy is an Insidious Fear
The trouble is that jealousy is an insidious sort of fear because we seldom recognize it as a fear. And so we fail to understand the cause of the problem.
But although we cannot see the cause, the effect can be devastating.
We cannot see the cause of jealousy because there is always an attempt to disguise it.
The Green Disguise
No-one likes to admit to jealousy.
The jealous husband who is both unwilling and unable to discuss the reasons for his fears finds that he is unable to suppress them. When his boiling emotions and fear are more than he can handle he takes the only way out that he can think of and reacts in an unacceptable way.
The little boy doesn’t understand why he feels threatened by his sister. He has ambivalent feelings of love and resentment. But he doesn’t really want to hurt her so he pretends that he is only trying to play with her.
The Results of Jealousy
Unfortunately, where there is jealousy in a relationship, logic flies out of the window. Instead of devotion and affection we get mistrust, resentment and anger. Sometimes even physical abuse. It can be an intolerable situation.
So how can we address the problem of jealousy?
Unfortunately jealousy can be a complicated and difficult issue. Clearly it would be a great help if we could understand why relationships are plagued in such a destructive way. But finding the reason can be difficult.
Nevertheless, it’s important to remember that there is always a cause for jealousy. It’s possible that the reason for the jealousy could seem unreasonable and trivial to us. But it is always top of mind for the jealous individual. Sufficiently top of mind for it to create a problem.
By trying to find the reason for the jealousy we will go a long way towards resolving the problem.
Your personality revealed in your handwriting
