Have you ever stopped to wonder why we go to such lengths to hide our feelings?
We use all sorts of ploys and subterfuges to try to hide how we truly feel.
We control our facial expressions; we hide our hands behind our backs and we change our voices. In short, we will try anything to conceal any gesture that could possibly suggest how we really feel.
And so we laugh when we feel embarrassed. We pretend indifference when we are moved. We hide our tears when we are sad. And we even smile when we are hopping mad!
We’re all so scared of being ridiculed or humiliated that saving face has become an end in itself. Image is so important that we have to protect it all costs.
Why do we feel it necessary to hide our feelings behind a mask of indifference? What is it that makes us want to pretend?
Isn’t it possible that the real problem with showing our emotions is that it could make us seem vulnerable?
And so, if we are feeling an emotion – any emotion at all, we disguise it in case it reveals sensitivity or vulnerability. Because we often mistake vulnerability for weakness.
Strange that we are all so bent on hiding the sensitivity that reveals our humanity. After all, aren’t our feelings the very things that make us truly human?