And your own relationship is no different. Your personality and the personality of your partner are directly responsible for the quality of your relationship.
It’s easy to see how this happens.
If both partners in a relationship have calm temperaments they are likely to have a calm relationship. Their personalities combined will have shaped their relationship.
On the other hand, if you and your partner are excitable and volatile you will no doubt end up with a rather fiery relationship! So yes, personality dynamics certainly have an important influence on any relationship.
Of course couples don’t always have similar personalities and this isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Some differences in outlook can actually strengthen a relationship.
There are many successful relationships where couples are tolerant of one another’s idiosyncrasies and foibles. In fact they find that the differences in their personalities spice up their relationships. Every healthy relationship needs some variety.
However the scenario is somewhat different for a relationship that is taking strain.
A Relationship in Trouble
When a relationship is in trouble, we tend to concentrate on the things that are holding us apart. We tend to become more critical. Every little difference is magnified and we become disapproving of our partners if they don’t hold the same opinions as we do.
Little things start to irritate us because we don’t agree about the big things. And because we hold conflicting views about the important things we begin to pull in opposite directions.
If your relationship is going through a difficult patch it would be advisable to take careful note of the differences in your personalities. Because your personality differences probably hold the key to your relationship problems. Of course, it all boils down to getting to know yourself before you try to understand your partner.
Unfortunately, it’s extremely difficult to get an objective view of all this if you are in the middle of an emotional crisis.
Getting an Objective View
I always find it helpful to look at the handwritings of a couple if I want to get a better understanding of the differences and similarities in their personalities.
You can get a lot of information by comparing two handwritings.
If you haven’t had any contact with handwriting analysis before, you may find this difficult to believe. I can only say that I have worked a great deal with handwriting analysis and I have found it to be very effective.
You fill find a lot more about the impact of your personality on your relationships in “Finding Mr Right“